Special Guest Expert - Gene Bernier

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Speaker1:
So here's the big question, how our entrepreneurs

Like us, who have been hustling and struggling to make it to success,

Speaker1:
Who seem to make it

One step forward, two steps back work, getting determined. And Dreft. How do we finally break through? That is the question. And this podcast will give users. My name is Scott. And this. Body.

Speaker1:
Hello, everyone, and welcome, welcome, welcome to the Mind Body Business Show. We have an amazing, amazing guest with us here tonight. He comes from up north, at least in relation to myself coming all the way to us from Canada on the west side, the West Coast. And I cannot wait to share this young man's brilliance with you. His name is Gene Bernier, and he is coming on with a plethora of experience and he's going to be dropping massive value all evening long. The mind body business show, that is a show that I had put together with you and mine, the entrepreneur, the small business owner, the person looking to gain that little extra advantage to take your business to the next level. And by bringing on people like Jean who are vastly experienced to have achieved success, you can then simply listen to them and model what they have done to achieve that success. That is the whole purpose of the show is to really showcase amazing people so that you, as the viewer and the listener, can do the same by simply taking notes. And I highly recommend you take a lot of notes during the show. I know for a fact that Jean will be dropping some incredible knowledge bombs and smart bombs and bombs of wisdom throughout the show. And just stay with us during the show and take notes. The reason for the name of the show is because I began studying only successful people for a period of about a decade, trying to find out what is it about them that made them perhaps more successful than me.

Speaker1:
It's like, well, how do they do? They put on their pants differently. Maybe they run and jump in and land in both feet, go in at the same time. I mean, what is so special? Why are they more successful? And of course, that's not the case. At least I don't think I've never asked that question, to be honest. But really, what what came and trickled to the top time and time and time again was three areas. And yes, that's part of the name of the show. And I call them the three pillars of success is kind of like a tripod. You take any leg away from a tripod or that tripod comes tumbling down and there's usually something very expensive on top. And you don't want that to happen because it might break. Same thing with business, same thing with life. So my mind is all about mindset. So to a person, everyone I studied had a very powerful and even more importantly, flexible mindset. Body was literally what that means is taking care of one's own body through nutrition and through regular exercise. And then business business is very, very multifaceted. Now, what these successful individuals had done is they had mastered certain skill sets that are required to create and develop and nurture and build and grow a successful business. Skill sets like sales, marketing, team building, systematizing leadership. I could keep going almost all night. There's a lot. The good news is, you know, here's the thing, to master any one thing by itself can take a long time. I mean, to become an expert in something, I think the the go to numbers do it for ten thousand hours and now you can be called an expert in that field.

Speaker1:
Well, the same as with mastering skill sets. However, the good news is you personally don't have to master every single skill set. In fact, if you concentrate on one of those above and beyond all of the others that I mentioned, in fact, one of those that I did mention was just a moment ago, if you focus on just how one, then you honestly don't even need to master any of the others that I mentioned. And so you can see yourself a bunch of time in trying to master all these skill sets and that one skill set if you master it. We'll help you to leverage and build with other people who do have mastery in those skill sets, and the one skill set I'm talking about for you to master is the skill set. Of leadership, and that's a perfect segue, Segway, because Jean Bernique is here to talk about things around leadership, so, oh my gosh, I'm excited. You do definitely want to pull out your notebook. And another wonderful, amazing trait of the most successful people I've met over my life is that they are also very avid readers of books and not just any books, but those that are that are read with a purpose to get you farther in life, whether it's business or personal. And with that, what I'd like to do is Segway. Really quickly to a little segment I like to call bookmarks.

Speaker2:
Bookmarks for to read bookmarks, ready, steady, read bookmarks brought to you by reach your peak library dot com.

Speaker1:
Yes, there you see, reach your peak library, dotcom, as you're watching, if you're watching on video, if you're listening on podcasts, it's reach your peak library, dotcom. And real quick, this is where I want to make the statement very, very strongly is urge you to take notes, even when it comes to website addresses resources. Because the common thing that people like to do is go click away and go checking out these resources while the show is still going. And I really would highly recommend that you do not do that and rather pull out a notepad and write all of these resources down and visit them after the show is over. And the reason is, is because the magic happens in the room. And I would just hate for you, Gene, to be giving dropping one of those knowledge bombs at the very moment you've taken your attention elsewhere. And you may miss that one golden nugget that could have changed your life forever. That is the reason I recommend you take notes and take a lot of them, because get ready for writer's cramp in the best way. So reach your peak library. Dotcom, what is that? That is a website that I had developed literally with you in mind. I myself was not an avid reader until about 10 years ago. And then I began to realize, oh my goodness, this is a gold mine and I haven't been tapping into it. So what I did is I began reading voraciously over that period and every book that had profound impact on me, either in business or in person, personal life or even in both.

Speaker1:
I began compiling a list and then I had my team throw up this website where now all of those books, only those books that had profound impact. So not every book I read has now on this site, there's no rhyme or reason to their order. They're not athletic, they're not chronological. They're not. They just went in. And so what I recommend to you is you just find the first book that jumps off the page. Look at the little description. You don't need to scroll through every single one of them and be a person who takes action and just go get it. And look, these just go straight to Amazon. This is not a money making website per say. It is here simply as a gift and a resource for you so you can start going farther down that path. If you're not reading today, this would be a good place to start. If you are reader and you have been avidly reading, I'll bet you you'll find one or two things titles in here you haven't read before. This is another great resource for you. So that is there for you. And speaking of being there for you, we have somebody here that is definitely here for you. His name is Jean Bernier, and it is time to bring this amazing young man to the forefront and get them on camera. Here we go.

Speaker2:
It's time for the guest expert spotlight. Savvy, skillful, professional, adept, trained, big league qualified.

Speaker1:
And there is the ladies and gentlemen, it is the one it is the only with an amazing haircut, Mr. Gene.

Speaker3:
Hey, Brian, thank you so much for having me on the show today.

Speaker1:
Oh, my goodness. I'm so glad I didn't know I had a twin and now I finally found him. This is amazing. I mean, this is crazy. Look at this. I mean, it's

Speaker3:
Like looking in a mirror, honestly, tell you they're they're not going to know which one of us it is.

Speaker1:
This is frickin awesome. Hey, real quick before we jump in, and I know you're just going to lose value for everyone that's watching, we already have a couple of people commenting. Thank you. Keep doing that, please. For those of you watching live a little bit of housekeeping. Take care of our sponsors. For those of you watching, you can see over Gene's left shoulder, that's the right side of the screen. At the very top is a red looking stamp of approval. And that is the big insider secrets. And they are our sponsor. Yes. Over there they are sponsor and what they are providing for us to give away to you. To one lucky winner who stays on to the very end of the show, a five night vacation at a five star luxury resort, once again compliments of the big insider secrets. My buddy Jason Nazarene's that and thank you, Jason. And the big insider secrets. We get to give this away every single week on our show. And it's a great, great, wonderful prize. And then we've got a couple more to cover and then we'll get into this young man's wonderful brain over here. His name is Gene Bernier, as you can see right there. So real quick, couple more.

Speaker1:
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Speaker1:
Our IP. I am for streamlined. Yes. That is a web address. I know it's a strange one, but it is. And it works. All right. Back to the man of the hour, literally of the hour. So Jean Byrne. Yeah. Let's give him the respect that's due to him. What do you think? I'm going to give him a great introduction. And it's a phenomenal one because he wrote it. That's why it's so great. So Jean Bernique is a coach, consultant, live cast host, husband and father. He spent over twenty years in the world of tech as a leader, building high performing teams and delivering predictable results for clients across many industries. You know, I know is another reason you're my brother. Tech, come on. This is just getting too good as an enjoyment coach. He works with his clients to step beyond their comfort zone, begin facing their challenges and to find one thing that brings joy to their lives every day. I love this. Jean supports his mission through his show, live cast conversation with by interviewing guests and unlocking their personal stories behind their success. Wow. That sounds very similar to another show I can think of with that officially and formally. Welcome to the show. My brother, Jean Bernier.

Speaker3:
Thank you very much for having me again. Great. Yeah, there is a lot of similarities that are going on in the tech. We've got a lot of enjoyment happening and we love unlocking other people's secrets to show them. One of the things that really resonates with me is like I think the quote by Jim Roen, where he talks about success leaves clues. And through shows like this, we get to turn those clues into billboards. I think that's a really powerful thing. It's people constantly are on the on the lookout for them. They need the help. And they also need to understand that what we've all been through there and it's sometimes that's just not to feel alone, especially in the time that we've been dealing with over the last few years.

Speaker1:
Well put. Well put. Hey, we got some folks that I want to say hi to or let's say hi to you, Andy. Ian Miller says, good on you, Gene Bernier with the nice thumbs up. And then we have Eliza says, Hi, Brian. She's actually coming to us through, by the way, of the Philippines. So things are

Speaker3:
Coming up a little later on as well.

Speaker1:
And then we have Prince. I love this guy. He's an amazing I know him personally. Greetings, Brian. Have a great show. Thanks for coming on and stay on with us till the end so you can ask Mr. Furnier some wonderful questions throughout the show. We love participation. I just love the surprise of guests with a really crazy question. I'm kidding. No, we're going to

Speaker3:
Never

Speaker1:
Do that. Never do that. At least not on purpose. I'll put it that way. So what I like to do, Gene, is your bio tells a lot about you. Just in talking to I know that you've already achieved great success. You're very experienced. You're a tech guy. I mean, come on, you've got it all. It's like, man, it's like a bromance, even though we are brothers, so. Stephen Hess, I don't know how to say that last name, I will have Cecille, so it's great to see you guys. I can tell the difference between you two. Good. I know there's just a little one, but not much. Thanks for thanks for noticing. Thanks for coming on, Stephen. Appreciate that. What I like to do is dig deeper, Gene, because there are there are commonalities between very successful people. I learned when I did that study of very successful people over a decade. And what I like to do is kind of open up the curtain a little bit so people can peek inside. Because what I found, Gene, is more often than not the reason for success or lack thereof is all about what's going on between those two years. So for you, what I wanted to do is find out what is going on in your brain that is keeping you going day in and day out. Being an entrepreneur is not a simple thing, and we know that. And every day we get up, there are arduous task to tackle. There are issues. That's why we do what we do. We're problem solvers. But when you get up knowing that you're about to tackle these tasks, what is it? Just keeps you going, keeps you positive. That keeps you drivin and driving through each and every day knowing all these things are in front of you.

Speaker3:
Well, maybe it helps a little bit to reframe that I wasn't always that way, like there were days like back in like you say, I'm a young man, I'm forty one. I'm not super young, but I'm not even at the halfway mark yet. So I've still got tons to learn. But there was times that like getting myself out of bed in the morning was just like, I don't want to face another day. Like I'm grinding. I've got like this mountain up to do tasks to do in front of me and feeling like there was no direction. I'm just like, why am I like I just feel like this badge of business became like this weight. And the more that we tried to chop off things off the to do list, the more that to do list group was like a hydra. You kill one in three more show up and it's just like never ending. I'm like, oh, I'll take a break. Once I get through all this, I got to multiple burnout stages where I never took any of those breaks because they never magically happened. And so part of where I am now, it's like I kind of start taking a step back when there's got to be a better way. I know there's a better way. There's people out there that I can see from reading, from watching podcasts and everything else. And some people around me that don't seem to be stressed about work and are still crushing it, like what's happening. And not only are they positive, they seem to have good relationships and the bodies are falling apart or at midway through your 30s like this is all possible.

Speaker3:
What what is this magic. Right. So I kind of went on this adventure of I look back on it now as an adventure. And I think at the time it was like this needed self intervention, like starting to feel like I need to I'm not happy with where I'm at. So I can remember the days still sitting in my car. I'd gone back from the doctors. I thought I was going to be going there to talk about depression. And it's just like your your heart rate is way too high for a young man your age. Like, are you working out like meditating like now what are you talking about? And he's just like, you know what I thought I know you probably thought you were coming here to get some pills or medication because this is getting hard. But I want you to go do some work on yourself. I'm giving you a prescription to go hit the gym and to meditate. And I drove home. I kind of sat with that. I sat in my car in the driveway. And this message came in, it's just start doing the things that you're uncomfortable about, start doing those things that you keep saying no to because you're afraid of what somebody might say or what it might look like a book or Lord forbid you fail. And it was just like this aha moment, I'm like, all right, I'm going to start on this journey of being like doing things outside of my comfort zone. And that was in two thousand fifteen.

Speaker3:
And it just kind of slowly taken off over there, the things that I've been able to do. So where does that look like today? It's like, oh, it's this exercise, it's meditating because it helps keep my brain a little bit quiet. It also looks like wrapping my day up with a set routine. One of the things I've realized about myself is that if I can start my day with the pieces I can control, which is like, how am I going to get out of bed? Am I going to get out of bed and be happy about it? That's whether my control. Am I going to go work out first thing? Yeah, that's in my control. Can I meditate? Yeah, I have all those things in my control. That's my first start of my book. And because I know once my day starts, once I start working with my clients or running around with the kids or whatever else, responsibilities come up because obviously I'm working from home. That's the way that this goes. I know that I've already invested in myself and that's key. And then at nighttime, I have a little routine where I read and I journal of the five things that I'm grateful for. And I write down the one thing that I've learned or that's come up in the day. I've got notebooks filled with that stuff now. And when I hit those, it doesn't matter what happens. I know I put the money in for myself. I've invested in myself and the rest is going to go forward.

Speaker1:
All right, you know, it's coming, it's coming. Oh, my goodness, that's the show, everybody, he just some

Speaker3:
Time away and I love it.

Speaker1:
Oh, my goodness. Smart bombs, bombs of wisdom, knowledge bombs just dropping everywhere. Oh, my goodness. I'm getting ready. So, look, I was asking people imploring of them to take notes. I'm running the whole show and everything, and I'm taking notes myself. So I never I never asked people or recommend people do things that I don't personally do. But, my goodness, so many so many nuggets. There is no getting comfortable with being uncomfortable is another quicker way to phrase. To to recap, I don't want to reiterate everything you said

Speaker3:
It would take

Speaker1:
Twice as long. Right. But exercise and meditation, I mean that is that's so key. And the second word of this show body, that's what that's all about, that it changes your life. It changes your attitude. It really does. It's like the the least expensive, wonderful drug on the planet with no bad side effects. It is amazing

Speaker3:
What I cannot rave enough about. Just get out there and move. It doesn't matter at what level you're at. It just matters that you can move. Right. My level is much different than the way I was in twenty fifteen to where I will be in another ten years. And that's because you just, you just start, you've just got to start. Right. So like one of the things that I talk about a lot is that it all starts with one. It doesn't matter what that one is as long as you start with it. Right. And I find sometimes people will be looking at their the challenges that they've got and go, this is a big elephant. Where do I even go? Like, it doesn't just grab a fork and go like it doesn't matter and it doesn't matter if you get it all done that day, did you get the most important thing accomplished which is given to yourself? Right. So that one of the big things that I preach for myself more than anything else is that I want to make sure that my cup is full so that everything that spills over. And I know what can happen if I drain my cup or all my reserves. I've got nothing to give to my kids, nothing to give to my wife, and definitely nothing to give to my client. And in that our family white kids, quiet. Right. But at the end of the day, I want to make sure that I give everything that I can to those that are important to me. And that means I'm important to me, too. I love myself as if I love somebody else. Those are some of the newer questions that come up for me on a regular basis.

Speaker1:
Yeah, we will often do more for others than we will do for ourselves. And that's so true. And yeah, great tips on just getting started, especially how many times even to this day I get up like I don't feel like it just I'm just going to stay on. It's going to stay here and be a little lump on the couch for a while. But what I found that was really, really easy to do to get me jump started was to just go outside and and get in the sun, hopefully a place where you can do that on a regular basis. But I do that the morning. I'll go out and maybe do some jumping jacks. I'll take my coffee out there, set it out on the table in the backyard patio, go out in the grass, do some jumping jacks, even run a few laps. We have a pretty good sized lawn and just to get the heart rate going and then you're like, OK, I feel great. Now I'll go work out, get just jump starts it. And the other part I wanted to bring up on that because I used to be in the fitness big time as a trainer is that I remember I'm one of those competitive guys. Right. And I'm always thinking I'm going to go as far as I can until I can't do any more. Well, now I'm fifty seven and parts of my body don't react as well as they used to. And it's been actually a godsend because I've learned to just be OK with doing enough rather than trying to do too much. And so what you were saying was ringing true. You know, you don't have to just go all in, just start and you'll gradually increase and do it comfortably. Another fitness expert blew me away by saying, oh, you should not be doing anything that's causing you pain when you're working. And I said, what? What about no pain, no gain? Like now that's a misnomer.

Speaker3:
Scott. Why? So and we all used to live by the no pain, no gain like I can think of, like being in business situations where people are talking about no pain, no gain like that doesn't this isn't feeling right. Does everybody enjoy any of this? Right. Especially we're getting started. We've all been in situations where maybe we haven't worked out for a little while. We're like, we're going to go big and we go try to lift the biggest thing we can find the next day. Your body is in pain. You go, Oh, I guess I can do. That's not for me. Look how painful it is.

Speaker1:
Yeah, absolutely, and, you know, you were talking about how if your cup isn't full, then you aren't there fully present for others, including your family. And that's what I love. That was a great point as well, because, like, again, we will do more for others than we will for ourselves. And when you're not working out, when you're sluggish, when you're noticing that you're not feeling up to par, don't look at about yourself and how you're feeling. But how are you impacting those around you or how are you not impacting them? But if you have kids right there watching, they're like a sponge, it's monkey see, monkey do. So whatever you're doing, they're going to do. And that's the way you show up to your clients as well. Right. Whatever you're showing up to, your family is the same thing that your clients or prospective clients are going to be experiencing if you're not at your top. What I like to call your peak level of performance, then it's going to show it's kind of like a dog that can sense fear, right,

Speaker3:
Of what you should be dropping your own knowledge bomb on right now. Like, that was great, but it's totally true. And one thing to add on to that whole component is like you only know what your pick is based on where you are today. Right. And that peak is something that's going to continue to move. And that in itself is OK. Right. Are you able to move that or you to get to a point where you like to be a peak for me two years ago and now look at me like I wonder what's next, getting like super curiosity around being uncomfortable around that level of uncertainty, if that's what you're looking for. Now, there are people going to look at that, but I'm happy with my life. Then then this is then you're already doing it. You're you're up. You're at the best part that you could be like celebrate that share with what you're doing. Right. But if there's any point in your life that you're like, I, I don't feel like content. I don't think that I've accomplished what I should be doing while then this advice is definitely for you. That's that. Get started, get pushing. Get get the only way that you're going to build muscles. I use like the gym metaphor a lot is like because it holds true is like your mental toughness and your mental resilience only grows with resistance. Right, you have to work through the resistance. You have to go to those points where I might collapse under this. Oh, I got it. And if you need a spotter, there's a ton of people that are around to be able to help you spot them and make sure you get through it. But you need to sit under that weight sometimes

Speaker1:
Resistance, another another goddamn word. That's another kind of a synonym for being in your being uncomfortable. Right. So it's the resistance is there because of the discomfort you're feeling discomfort either physically or mentally. And I learned this great. Just I learned to say this one word. If I knew it, I knew it felt good. I knew it would be good for me. But, man, all those other voices are going on and tell me why I shouldn't go forward. But if I felt deep down I knew this was good and maybe it was going to cost a lot of money and I didn't have all that money, but if I just sat there and used that excuse and never went to the person and said, can we work something out, nothing would have ever happened. So I learned that say this one word over and over again, and it just made all the difference. There's actually a movie with Jim Carrey by the very title of this movie, and it's yes. Yes, man. Yeah. And so I learned that I was sitting there. I'll never forget one of my mentors was actually teaching and I knew that he was about to do another upswell, that something he commonly did. And I actually look forward to them because everyone that I had attended was a life changer. And then the price came out and I was like, OK, that's going to be a stretch. I just said immediately, I just said yes to myself. And I walked up. We struck a deal. We made it work. I paid them in full over time. And I got the result I needed and wanted. And I didn't listen to all those voices. So yes is a very powerful word. And be sure that it's in your alignment with your values before you say yes.

Speaker3:
Don't go too fast.

Speaker1:
But you'll know it. You'll know it. If it feels right, it's just go ahead.

Speaker3:
And the power of yes, it's like it's powerful. And we talked about before the show. So it's the word no, you have to use your nose to protect the right. You think about that. Yes. It's like a bucket. If you can only hold so many yeses, which means you've got all those yeses every time you say yes, you're making a commitment. Sometimes it's a little yes. Sometimes that's a big yes. Right. And you only got so much room in your bucket to put a yes to use those no's to protect it. So you've got the right one. But don't let them know the thing that's.

Speaker1:
Absolutely agree, my man, you know what that warrants? Yeah, this my gosh, I didn't know what to expect when you came on the show, but you've exceeded all expectations that

Speaker3:
Either I or anyone else that you being far too kind.

Speaker1:
Yeah. The amount of knowledge you're dropping and wisdom. I sincerely hope everyone is taking very voracious notes. Oh, my goodness. I'm getting ready for writer's cramp over here. And it's a great writer's cramp. I love it, you know. And he's saying, ladies and gentlemen, Jeanne is saying all of the things these are. Look, I look at it as like a recipe book. If you're going to bake a cake, for instance, I've never baked one in my life, but I'm pretty confident that if I got a recipe of a very good cake, that if I follow the directions like I went and got the proper ingredients and I mix it up the way it said and I put it in the oven for the right temperature, for the right amount of time, I'm very confident I could make one hell of a tasty cake, which wouldn't neat, but because it's not good. But as for a metaphor here, and here's the thing. The beautiful thing is the same thing is true in success and business. You know, there are probably, I don't know, hundreds or thousands of recipes for cakes that are phenomenally, really good. But how many do you really need to find? A good one. Just one. And so when it comes to business, that's one of the problems with us as entrepreneurs, that shiny object is all over the place and we're going after it. But if we find that one individual, that one person that would agree to mentor us, then that's when I say grab on to both of their ankles and do not ever let go until you say it's hurting and let go.

Speaker3:
But like you think you can, coaches and mentors like people that are willing to give you a little bit of their time, like take every chance of that and you'll strike out to the uncomfortable side of things like we can ask them. There are a lot of successful people out there that loves to do that kind of stuff. It's like it's an ego boost for them going, hey, I really respect you. I look up to you and they'll give you more often than not, they'll give you a little bit of time or give you a response depending on how busy their schedule is and if they're actually the ones watching their email or whatever else. But like straight out, like you just never know. I think it would be used to talk about, like, you know, take a chance on rolling up to whatever it is, be like roll up to the girl at the bar that you would never have said yes to roll up to the business choice and never say, you know, like Brian, you're talking about roll off and take a chance on stepping beyond going to the next workshop. That is like really calling for you. Like, just take that chance. It's so important because it's what we're all going to get to our that we're all going to be there. It's our choice about how many regrets we're going to pull along with.

Speaker1:
And what kind of legacy we leave and the example we've set for our kids, if we have them and just people we've dealt with and gone through with life. And here's the thing, though, so that everybody is very clear, Gene. Well, Gene might be I just know I'm not perfect. No one person is perfect. No one person has the breadth. The best day every day you have your off days and be OK with that. You have the days where things don't go right or you're not in a great frame of mind. Two days ago that was me. Then yesterday, things lifted way back up. I knew it was coming back, so I just kept going through the day as one of those things when, you know, when you think everything that could go wrong does go wrong and you're like, how is this happening? I'm such a positive person. This is starting to literally piss me off right now and then. So we're human. You know, if you see nothing but fun and glowing Facebook posts and LinkedIn and everything is just perfect. And I know you see that with a lot of people out there know that they have their struggles just like you do. Well, different than you are.

Speaker3:
Yeah. What you're seeing on most of those social media posts is only the best version because people think this is what you need to see. I guess agree with that. I think that they need to see the unpolished right. Like I turn myself, like when I do post, I try to do it in one one take, like I don't. And even if it's not perfect, I'll post it because, like, I think people need to understand that you don't need to be the most highly polished thing that doesn't really exist. We're trying to live up to a standard that doesn't actually exist in the real world. Look like no. No wonder people get upset or depressed when they're looking at social media and stuff like, oh, I can never be like them. Like they're not like them either. So it's OK.

Speaker1:
Exactly. And if here's the thing, if you're putting yourself out there as all positive and nothing could go wrong, they cannot relate to you. They cannot say, well, I will they will just say I will never be like him. So the odds of them actually doing business with you are decreased when you are not being authentic and transparent.

Speaker3:
And because I

Speaker1:
Can attain that. So there's no way I'm going to even start with the next step with that person. But when you show transparency, authenticity is like, hey, that person puts on their pants one leg at a time and they're just like me. They have their own issues. You know what? That's cool. But he's also very successful or she's very successful and they figured something out that I haven't. But there's that commonality that takes them past that word that Jean brought up resistance and they will go and be more apt to do business with you.

Speaker3:
Oh, when I said of being authentic is so important up on my whiteboard, I've got the laws of From Poppadoms book to go over a number for authenticity. That is the greatest gift that you can give to somebody being the real you. Right, because that's a lot. That's how real relationships can be established. And I think that in the business world and the world it is it's all about relationships. Relationships are a form of energy. What kind of energy are you going to have out there? I do want to have the good energy or you want to be building all the stuff up on a nonexistent. It's really hard to to maintain that.

Speaker1:
Fantastic. Wow. All right. Let's give the folks a little bit more something to chew on that. And by the way, everything that he has been talking about so far are this is gold. There is no secret. It's a recipe. He's got a recipe to success. Follow it. If you have not yet followed a recipe for success. That simple, I hope you took notes. And if not, go back and watch this video again, go back and listen again and then take notes and then go back and listen to it again and again until it is. Part of everything Gina said is is the recipe that the ingredients that go into the recipe for success. And I literally I'm not kidding. I have goose bumps under my jacket. I am just so pumped and excited because Jean is hitting it on every front. It's amazing. And it's because he's my my long lost twin. I didn't know about that. Oh, my gosh. So I kind of opened the show by talking about skill sets and how important those are to master certain skill sets in order to create a thriving, successful business. And I know that that can change over time. What is the most important kind of skill set to. Because we're always growing. We're always moving to the next phase of business, whether it's from technician to manager to investor. But for you right now, Jean, if you were to just take a snapshot in time and you came up with three three skill sets that you now know right now are key to your level of success, what would those be

Speaker3:
Patient patients have like the first one? And that's when you ask that. That's the first word that jumps to my mind, is like there's we always wildly overestimate what we can do in a year and wildly underestimate what we can do in ten years. Right. And to get to that 10 year mark takes patience and it takes consistency. So finding the things that you are going to be consistent with and moving forward and understanding them to do them on that regular basis, things that bring energy to you or energy to that goal that you can then gain the energy from, because not everything you're going to do is inherently like, oh, I can't wait to go do the books, you know? But that's a really important piece that you need to be consistent on or else the CIA or the IRS is going to come at you. So I know both me and Brian are on the up and up on that side, so no worries there. So I think it's those are those are the two key ones, and I think gratitude, like I live by gratitude, it's become such an integral part of my life. Used it for used to post my top five things I'm grateful for online all the time. Got a lot of support with that. Now I just keep it private because it's it's really interesting. On those days that you talk about being down, uncle flip through it and just be like, I got a lot to be grateful for. And it's just that reminder to shifts my my mindset and my emotions to to get moving in the right direction. So I think if you can master those, like deploy those three things, the rest can start working themselves out.

Speaker1:
Wow, you just you just brought something up that got me to go deep into my heart there for a moment because. Yeah, being grateful, the reason I have no hair right now is my wife is battling breast cancer, so I'm doing this to support her and I told her I'm going to grow this until she is cancer free. That is the beard that they can't see on the podcast. No matter how ratty it ends up. I'll keep it trimmed and things, but it's in support of her. And one of the things I'm grateful for, literally, I'm grateful that I was chosen to be the one to take care of her during this time. And I feel so supremely blessed that I get to do this. It's there's no one that loves her on this planet more than I do. But you just man, I don't know where that came from. Just what you were seeing just hit right there. And I'm thinking, man, that's my go to right now. I feel so supremely blessed that I get to take care of her and do whatever I can within my means to help her out. So great. And being grateful otherwise, like when you get up in the morning, you could just start spouting off to yourself everything you're grateful for, even if it seems ridiculous, like, oh, I'm so grateful that I get to see what I'm seeing right now. I'm the only one with this view in the entire universe right now. Nobody else sees exactly what I'm seeing right now. Thank you for that. You know, I'm glad I can hear I'm thankful that I can smell. I'm thankful that I have something. And you just go right. And you'll be amazed how your day is lifted, no matter how bad you're feeling at that moment. If you are feeling bad and if you're not, you're going to feel better and you're just going to crush it. You're going to go work out.

Speaker3:
Well, yeah. Then you have that emotional state which is in the right area. Right. You know, really, emotion is just energy, emotion. So how are you going to know if you've got the right energy that's in the motion, it's going to move you to do incredible things. So, again, it's about using those three skills to position yourself to be in that right emotional state, because that's totally in our control.

Speaker1:
Emotion is energy and emotion that you make that up, is that yours is you hear the smiles.

Speaker3:
So I heard that from a coach. I used to use that. Trent used to say that to me all the time. I don't know where he came up with it, but it's really resonated and stuck with me. So, Drew.

Speaker1:
And it's so cool because emotion can be positive or negative and it will change the direction of that motion. Yeah, that's the Beatles. It was like, this is perfect. The energy will be good or bad,

Speaker3:
And you can even strip the good and bad component out of it. Like energy just has a shape, right? Energy has a frequency. So depending on where you're at, if you're in a lower range frequency, well, it doesn't reach its far to hit as much. Does it have as much opportunity to expand what you've got, like a high vibrational one, big peaks and it can go for a long distance, like you can get a lot more done with that.

Speaker1:
Speaking of energy and vibrations. Oh, yes, yes. My goodness. It happens every week. This time flies. Let's see. Uh. Yeah, I'm thinking that would be a good one. I'm just thinking what question would be good for you for everybody watching right now? Because we're talking about energy, we're talking about success, talking about recipes, comfort zone, all of the above. When it gets down to it, when it gets to brass tacks, we all do all of the stuff we do for one reason and one reason only. It's not to make money. It's not to impress people. It is to achieve happiness. And so, Jean, I'm just going to come straight out and ask you, what is it? For you, and it could be today, maybe other things make you happy later, but what is working? What is what makes you happy today as you stand there right now or sit there?

Speaker3:
That's a great question. What what makes me happy is a doing this right before the show, like I was listening to a podcast by Louis Howe who had Rory beating on. And one of the comments, one of the takes on it was talking about going up in front of people. And Rory made a comment about like service outweighs nervousness. Right? Like if you're doing it, if you're being of service and you're not worrying about how you look, you're worrying about am I bringing value? And what makes me happy is knowing that I get to bring value to my family, to myself. I live in this wonderful place where everybody wants to go vacation. I take care of myself because I know that's important and that allows me to be happy to have the opportunity to understand. But I also know that happiness is clear and it's something that we have to cultivate on. It's it's an emotion. It's a state. It's not there forever. There's a difference between, like your your immediate happiness and long term contentment and bliss and enjoyment. So how am I working towards being the man that's going to be able to have that long term enjoyment and bliss? Yeah, and that makes me happy.

Speaker3:
I also have this realization the other week before taking a friend out for her birthday, and she's like, oh, it's just showed up like a dog a little bit. But this message is when you're living the life you thought you would when you retire, you get to work with great clients. You get to do your own things to continue to grow, and you get to be there for your kids. Right. As the work from home, dad, I'm like like it was just like that was such a different body shape. And I'm still right in that. That high right is just like the rest of it doesn't matter anymore. We got work to do. Great. I didn't get everything done. Did I get my top three most important things accomplished that day? Yeah, I think the most important things got done and the rest of it is just anything else. It's just a cherry. So it's a long winded way to say, like, those are all the ways that I go about just being happy. That's how happiness that's how enjoyment is showing up for my life.

Speaker1:
You know, I think it's a moniker of an entrepreneur. It was funny that you said I get to read it. It's like you said, I get to retire. And the very next sentence you said, I get to work. I'm like, I love it. That's an entrepreneur right there. Because everyone else that is not in that space, retirement means not working, not doing anything, going to do your hobbies until you die, which unfortunately happens very quickly when people turn in their working credentials for whatever their. You know what what if, Gene? OK, we are entrepreneurs. We are always looking to improve nonstop without end. What if. What if it existed? What if there was that ceiling and you bumped up against it and there was no more improvement that you could go through, you could not create anything more than you've already done? I'm just curious, what would what would that feel like to that feel good or would that feel bad? How would that feel?

Speaker3:
Oh, that's weird, right, because it's just like but the immediate thought was like, I guess the jury's done right. I got to the end and I completed I beat the box level. Like, what now? Now what what's the new game? Right. Do you. I don't I think that we'll take that back to that retirement component. People that turn in their credentials as soon as you don't have a purpose anymore or you don't have something that you're driving for if you've completed everything and there's nothing else to touch me, like I've lived a really fantastic life. And then and I'm OK to let it out for somebody else to take on the next challenge area.

Speaker1:
Wow, that's a wow. I love that take. I would always say I would just be bored out of my gourd and it would not be a fun life anymore. And I like how you said just take good. I've hit the finish line and now let's move over and let someone else have the fun. Wow, that was awesome. That was awesome. Thank you for that and a great question. And I'm going to I'm going to put that on my go to list. Yeah, I just I'm glad there isn't one. There's no way that I can see we you and I, my humble opinion, there's only been one human being to ever walk this planet that could be called perfect. And none of us are that. And I'm glad because all we can do is continue to strive for it, knowing we will never reach it, which means until the day that we're called, it's going to be like that and it won't be boring. That's that's good. That's good news to me.

Speaker3:
It's meant to be boring. Let's enjoy the ride. We'll be on it. And if you're watching it, you're already on the right and stay on it and enjoy it and get the most that you can out of it, because it's like you never know what's going to happen tomorrow. And all you can do is start working towards being the person that you want to be tomorrow. Right. And you're never going to be that person, but you can always be working towards achieving it.

Speaker1:
And I think one of the secrets to happiness that a lot of people miss that are more of a scarcity mindset because of their current financial situation, but what I've learned is the more I get to serve and help others, the more fulfilled and happy I am not serving and helping just myself. That happens that by osmosis, when I see helping serve others, I'm filled, I'm filled with joy with everything. And yeah, we have to make money. And by the way, Jeanne, I want him and I hope everyone here agrees with me to be showered, absolutely showered in wealth. And why is that? Because I know someone like him is going to take that and use it to scale his business to serve more people and help more people. And that's why it's a beautiful thing. And yeah, I hope he gets some toys with that, gives his kids whatever is right about giving, takes his wife out to across the country, maybe back down into the US and to New York or whatever for dinner or whatever, whatever it is would be well deserved. That's what I hope for you. And speaking of your business, I want to jump in that and find out what is it that you know, who are your ideal clients? Who do you cater to and what kind of things do you do for them? And I'm going to actually pull up your website while you're explaining that. So talk

Speaker3:
Of it. Is the interesting part about it is now a little bit like a top picture of what I guess who I am and what I do right so that people might look at that and go, he spelled that wrong, didn't. And so it's a bit of an acronym for my kids names. So Pressley, Elliott, Alison Logan is trying to figure out how to play within that. And that's where this came back, came out from. So are my ideal clients really. I work with sound like people that are founders or high level leaders in any size of company, preferably like 20 plus people. It's kind of when they start to realize, like, oh, I'm starting to need to change the way that I do my leadership. I actually need to be very clear. I'm getting to a point that the people that I need to communicate to aren't sitting right beside me all the time. And I'm starting to wonder why nobody is nobody working as hard as I am. All these typical founder questions that they're having as they're growing their teams. I work with those people to help them unlock or peel back some of the challenges that are really happening nine times out of 10. It's you and we can help you so that you actually show up and be the model, right? It's Brian talked about being parents earlier, be like monkey see, monkey do. You're walking into your office with that low energy like it's time to help you get back into doing it so that you're looking forward to every day when you put your feet on the ground, you're excited to go to work, which means the rest of the people around you are probably going to be in the same boat.

Speaker1:
Fantastic, and I love the whole use of the acronym on Peeled Back, and I forgot to mention it, but all of you, that's down to the end. Also, there's a gift by this gentleman. So you don't want to miss this. Stay until the end. And actually, we are almost at that moment. And what I like to do, Dean, is like Andy Show with a very interesting question. And this is interesting question because I've asked this of many successful entrepreneurs such as yourself. And I started doing it. I asked a couple of them and I realized, wow, these are powerful and profound answers. And so I began making it a staple. And I have over one hundred of these in my in my data now, my database. I love it. I'm actually going to compile a book by the name of the question whether that with with the with the permission of each individual. Could you. But it's a very profound question. It can touch on being personal and it's very powerful. But before we jump into that, it's prize time. Ladies and gentlemen, those of you stuck around with us live. Good job. And now we're going to show you how you can win a five night stay at a five star luxury resort. Again, compliments of our pals at the Big Insider Secrets Dotcom. And I'm going to put it up on the screen. So for this brief moment, you now have both Jeanne and my permission.

Speaker1:
Well, I should I should speak on his behalf, but he's my twin. So that to take your attention away for just a moment, because it's important that you go to the following website to enter, to win. I'll put that up on the screen so you'll want to pull out a Web browser, whether it's on your phone or a tablet or computer, and put in the address, the domain name, the URL. There's many words for it. Website address our IP dot. I am for vacation, our wipe that I am for vacation. And there you just simply enter your name, your email address, your cell phone number so we can reach out and remind you or connect with you and contact you if you are chosen to be the winner. We choose one random winner every single show. So be sure to do that and do it right away so we can make that selection, that random selection before the evening is over here in Southern California. And we'll bring Mr.. Jeanne, back on the screen a little right now was pretty good, and he has a gift as well. And so what I want to do is kind of turn it over to you, Jeanne, if that's cool with you. I'll put up the basically the subject of what it's about, and I'll bring your website back for a little nice background and go ahead and take it away.

Speaker3:
All right. Yeah. So I want to give away to our coaching session for one viewer to sign up for and definitely connected to an opportunity to start going through the process if you've never done coaching before. It's a great opportunity to just kind of dove in and go through some of the typical baseline questions that we go to set set the stage for no commitment or anything afterwards. This is an opportunity for me to give you some value to say thank you for being on the show or watching the show. The.

Speaker1:
Fantastic and the way they get to. I'm going to put this in the comments and the chat for those of you that have been watching live, but also how long is this good for Jeanne before I announce that

Speaker3:
For the let's make for the rest of the year? I understand that everyone's busy. So wherever we can get that launched into, I'm here to help serve you

Speaker1:
Fantastic so that you orl that you want to go to. It's now in the Facebook YouTube chat. LinkedIn chat. It's in it's just chatting it up. It's everywhere now. But you want to go to the following website, so get out a pen and paper. It's, it's a long one. So you want to go to Calenda. Lee so it's like calendar but Kelland Lee at the end calland Lee Dotcom for Jean Dash Bernier and that's will by R and E R and by the way Jenas G and E just in case there are multiple spellings for that four slash mind dash body dash business dash winter sunset all together one more time. It's Calland Lee Dotcom forgood jean dash vernier foresight mind dash body dash business dash winter. I should have had that as a graphic for the the video ahead of time, but I don't know if it would have it. To be honest it was a good one. So I appreciate that Jean. That's very kind of you to offer that. And for the folks that are watching this is this is a choice that you are listening. This is a choice that you need to make for yourself. Now, this is still the end of the year and we're in twenty, twenty one. To be clear, for those you potentially listening to this or watching after that time. So it's good until the end of twenty, twenty one.

Speaker1:
And for those of you that are still able to do that, to take advantage of it, I highly recommend it. You can tell this gentleman is very knowledgeable. You can tell that he loves helping people. And I can tell right off the bat he's not going to try to wrangle you into some kind of sales pitch. He's there to help you. And if you're a fit, then definitely reach out to and say, hey, I want to I want more help. What else can we do? What's the next step? But what I wanted really to put out there right now is please, please treat this as a gift, because it is a gift. It is his time. It's very valuable. I know your time is valuable, too. I'm not saying that that's not the case, but please treat it with respect and go in prepared and go in knowing that this is a guy that can help you. And he's there. He's there for you at that moment. So treat it with what it deserves, which is a lot. And I just implore of you to do that. That being said, do it. Go to counseling for size Dean that Bernie Fortnights mind Ashbery Dyche business Dasch winner who can't say it one more time. I'm telling you it's going to go.

Speaker3:
They're connecting with you.

Speaker1:
Yeah, absolutely. And if they're not able to remember that, is there another way they can just go

Speaker3:
On as you can also peel back to that p l k dot com. Go on there. That is a contact form connect down there and we'll jump on the call.

Speaker1:
Yeah, I just mentioned, just mentioned. We watched you saw him on the mind body business show and that you would like to have that talk with him and do you have that Kellingley link, that kind of thing. But yeah, it's on the bottom of his webpage contact form. In fact, I'll do a quick visual. Just it's always better to see things, in my humble opinion. So remember, it's a oops, wrong one. It's peeled back p a l e d. Back dotcom, and there's the bottom of it right there, and I'll put that back up so they know the URL, so peeled back dot com. I think it's a really cool name, actually. Play on the word so quick. There's the top. You scroll all the way to the bottom and here is the contact form on the lower right. So fill that out. Mentioned the mind body business show if you don't remember the calendar link or you didn't write it down, which

Speaker3:
Is a little bit. Again, hindsight is better and easier for me.

Speaker1:
No, no, no problem whatsoever. I take full cause in fact I've done this in the past where I would just create a are a little shortener of my own and it would point to yours and I just didn't do that. So it's on me as being the host. It's my fault, baby. That's OK. We'll get it to him one way or the other. So it's all good. Oh, my goodness, you know what it's time for, right? Is that question? Oh, yeah, so here's the good news with this question and those you still on stick with us. This is these are huge. These are amazing. One thing that I want to impart upon you, Jeanne, is there is absolutely it's impossible. There is no such thing as a wrong answer. It's absolutely not possible to answer it incorrectly and just the opposite is the truth. It is the only answer. The only correct answer is your answer, and that is the only thing that makes it personal. It's just unique to you. So we're not getting into your personal business and just have fun with. The thing is, some some will take some time to think about it. That's fine. Some will get it right away. That's fine. Why? Because it's your answer and it will come to you right away or we'll come to you after a few seconds or a minute. It doesn't matter. I'm not paying for the studio time, so that's a good thing. So with that and now with no more, you know, worrying about what the heck is this question, are you ready? Do it, oh, I knew you were going to say yes. All right, Jeanne Bernier, how do you. Define.

Speaker3:
Success or value hit the one oh. How I define success. The answer that comes to my mind, Brian, honestly, is more often than not when my feet hit the ground. Am I excited about the day? Right. And I think that's like the peak of it. It's not about what I've accomplished in it or the size of it is like, can I be excited about what happens at that day? And I'm just as grateful when my head hits the pillow if I can do those two things. My days are success. My life is a success. That means I'm putting out a lot of good. I'm delivering a lot of value all around, starting with myself and letting that go everywhere else. That's I think for me that's that's my answer. That's the one that comes up.

Speaker1:
You know what's coming. Oh, yes, oh, yes. For the man, the myth, the legend, Gene Bernique, thank you so much for coming on. Gene, you've been an absolute joy and a pleasure to to just chat with tonight. And I know that everyone that's watched this and that's going to listen to some podcasts is going to get supreme value. And again, if you didn't take notes the first time to go back and do it again and if you enjoyed this show, feel free to come back and register to get automated reminders of when we go live. Hey, we're all busy. We don't remember a lot of. My gosh, I'm lucky. Remember my middle name half the time with everything that's going on. Maybe it's Gene because we're twins. I don't know. Maybe that's what it should be. But definitely register. Just go to the mind body business, show dotcom and then you'll see buttons all over the place that are telling you where to watch where and how to watch you. Just click that. It'll take you to the bottom registration form completely free. We're not going to spammy with a bunch of stuff about business. It's just going to give you alerts when we go live moments before we go left to give you and give you the link to just make it super easy. You can find it on Facebook, YouTube. We don't take it all else. We give you a one, you just click it and you're on and you get to watch it. Listen to amazing people like Gene Furnier. And again, Gene, thank you so very, very much. Amazing, amazing show. Lots of value. And you're just an amazing guy.

Speaker3:
I appreciate you for having me on. It's a huge honor to be on your show that you've got quite the group of people that I now get to say I was part of. That is the badge of honor. So thank you, sir, for putting this on and letting everybody else get a glimpse behind the curtain, peel back behind the scene is phenomenal.

Speaker1:
Well, ladies and gentlemen, on behalf of my twin brother, Gene Bernie, I am your host. Brian Kelly of the Mind Body Business Show will be back again next time with another phenomenal guest. Until then, so long for now. Good night. And be blessed, everyone.

Thank you for tuning in the mind body for show podcast at w w w dot the mind body business show dot com. My name is Brian.

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Gene Bernier is Husband, Father, Coach, Consultant and LiveCast Host. He spent over 20 years in the world of tech as a leader building highly performing teams delivering predictable results for clients across many industries. He watched as people in business drove themselves into the ground so he took a step back as he believed there was a better way. Gene’s mission is to influence everyone to discover what it would take for them to be excited to put their feet on the ground every morning. As an Enjoyment Coach he works with his clients to step beyond their comfort zone, start to face their challenges, and to find one thing to bring joy to their lives daily. Gene supports his mission through his show LiveCast Conversation With by interviewing guests to unlock the stories to their success.

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